To be a true leader it’s a necessity
to maintain and develop your interpersonal skills. Genuineness, empathy, and
unconditional positive regards are just a few that you should excel at. When we
talked about what we felt was easiest for us immediately thought that
genuineness was the easiest. Having the ability to be genuine with someone
allows you to be in an environment that is open and honest. According to Chris
Hammer the The Benefits of Being Real,
he addresses the problem with how hard it is to “show up as our authentic
selves”, and how it’s difficult because we often need to “adapt our styles to
suit our audience and the purpose of our interaction.” As much as I would like
to think I am being genuine this article and the book challenges my beliefs. I
do find myself acting as how society expects me to act rather than to be 100 %
true to myself.
My theory is that we all have different type’s
genuineness. The situation that we are in determines which slice of the cake
you will receive. As society molds the norms, we adapt to “our styles” and
express the traits that fit the audience. Carl Rogers plays an important role
in these three core conditions. He believes that people learn from their
experiences and mistakes, which is the reason why they choose to act the way
they act in certain situations. This theory is confirmed through our group
meetings and how being genuine can really make an environment feel safe and
secure, especially hearing the personal stories that we've all heard within our
meetings. We can’t necessarily choose one over the other, it’s a balance
between all three core conditions that makes us a strong leader, facilitator,
teacher etc...
Citation:
"Carl
Rogers, the Unconditional Positive Regard Guy." Squidoo. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Feb. 2014.
Hammer, Chris.
"The Benefits Of Being Real." Http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Benefits-Of-Being-Real&id=5338685. N.p., n.d. Web. 11 Feb. 2014.
